Being a teenager is tough! And we’ve all been there. Teens are in a unique situation because they are often trying to assert their independence but are still technically not yet an adult. Often they struggle with low self-esteem and feel very alone, which can lead to isolation and an increase in these feelings. Living with a teenager doesn’t have to be a constant battle. There are things parents can do to increase peace in their homes and work with their teenagers rather than against them:
Mutual Respect
Teenagers deserve the same respect as adults. Respecting teenagers can involve being compassionate when their emotions get the best of them, or understanding that they are going to make mistakes as they grow and mature. The same respect you would show to a stranger or boss, should be extended to your teen. In return, this can encourage them to respect you and the rules of your home.
Being a good listener
Teenagers do not enjoy being told what to do or how they should feel (does anyone really enjoy that!?), but they can appreciate a parent or family member who offers to simply listen. Just by being present without judgement, the relationship between a parent and teenager can grow stronger. Listening to their stories, fears or opinions can greatly benefit parent relationships with teens.
Giving space
Having their own space is more important to teenagers than probably any other age group. They need space both figuratively speaking and literally. Simply having a place to get away with their own thoughts is hugely important. They are experiencing strong emotions at times and need the option to just get away at times. This can also be a way to show respect to teenagers.
Offering support
Simple knowing you support them can bring teenagers closer to their parents. If teenagers view your relationship with them as always confrontational or argumentative it can be challenging to have a close relationship. But offering support (even if from a distant) lets teenagers know they aren’t alone, especially if school or friend issues become difficult.
Although parenting teenagers has its challenges, it also has its moments of connection and happiness. If you are interested in exploring this topic further whether you are a teen or a parent, please contact me for teen counseling or parenting strategies.
